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I love Sherlock and everything, but c’mon…
Abusive Expectations - Makes impossible demands, requires constant attention, and constantly criticizes.
Aggressing - Name calling, accusing, blames, threatens or gives orders, and often disguised as a judgmental “I know best” or “helping” attitude.
Constant Chaos - Deliberately starts arguments with you or others. May treat you well in front of others, but changes when you’re alone.
Rejecting - Refusing to acknowledge a person’s value, worth or presence. Communicating that he or she is useless or inferior or devaluing his or her thoughts and feelings.
Denying - Denies personal needs (especially when need is greatest) with the intent of causing hurt or as punishment. Uses silent treatment as punishment. Denies certain events happened or things that were said. Denies your perceptions, memory and sanity by disallowing any viewpoints other than their own which causes self-doubt, confusion, and loss of self-esteem.
Degrading - Any behavior that diminishes the identity, worth or dignity of the person such as: name-calling, mocking, teasing, insulting, ridiculing,
Emotional Blackmail - Uses guilt, compassion, or fear to get what he or she wants.
Terrorizing - Inducing intense fear or terror in a person, by threats or coercion.
Invalidation - Attempts to distort your perception of the world by refusing to acknowledge your personal reality. Says that your emotions and perceptions aren’t real and shouldn’t be trusted.
Isolating - Reducing or restricting freedom and normal contact with others.
Corrupting - Convincing a person to accept and engage in illegal activities.
Exploiting - Using a person for advantage or profit.
Minimizing - A less extreme form of denial that trivializes something you’ve expressed as unimportant or inconsequential.
Unpredictable Responses - Gets angry and upset in a situation that would normally not warrant a response. You walk around on eggshells to avoid any unnecessary drama over innocent comments you make. Drastic mood swings and outbursts.
Gaslighting -A form of psychological abuse involving the manipulation of situations or events that cause a person to be confused or to doubt his perceptions and memories. Gaslighting causes victims to constantly second-guess themselves and wonder if they’re losing their minds.
important read for everyone
Oh, and just to solve the mystery… It’s Thor in his civvies.
Oh woah, expanded image!!
Guess he’s drinking mead out of that glass???
In addition to all the beer and drinks, and layabout hammers, I want to point out the candles. Like they have clearly been hanging out and drinking and bs’ing, but candles for class & ambiance.
Tasha is off getting pizzas.
CLINT IS SITTING ON THE BACK OF THE COUCH WITH HIS FEET ON THE SEAT. THIS FUCKING HOODLUM
everything is making me cry
Clint is sitting on the back of the couch with his foot on the cushions, Steve’s smiling like he knows this room is full of idiots and he’s okay with it, Rhodey’s off to the side with a drink in a full suit clearly wondering what the hell Tony’s managed to do this time, and Mjolnir is on the damn coffee table in the middle of party wreckage of half consumed drinks.
Dear god, Avengers family bonding. 8)
DEAR GOD IT’S EVERYTHING I’VE WANTED
Dear God, I might actually cry.
WHERE IS TASHA?
Taking the memorial photo of this momentous occasion.
Okay, this is actually what you do if you’re being sexually harassed in any kind of public space. Draw attention to it, preferably pull away and let EVERYONE know that someone is touching you. This will not only get him to get off you but he’ll definitely think about this situation next time he wants to do something like this.
Spreading the word.
My mom and I were talking about this today after hearing about a woman who was molested on a plane who said nothing until she was picked up at the airport by her parents. My mom looked at me and asked what I would do in that situation and I looked her dead in the eye and I told her “it would take me .02 seconds to realize what was going on and yell angrily, and then I would be straight on to bitch slapping him so hard he wouldn’t be able to see the punch I’d throw with the opposite hand”.
She nodded and accepted my salty language like a seasoned sailor.
I’ve had experience with this before, in Prague a group of five girls and I were followed by three men at night. After a while they started yelling at us, the most common being “how much?” Meaning how much we “cost” as prostitutes. Seeing as they weren’t going to stop, I turned on my heel, faced them (which surprised them), spat at their feet and responded with “You couldn’t afford me.” This prompted the other girls to start yelling back at them as well, starting with our spitfire Czech friend to start slinging curses in Czech as she and the rest of the girls came up beside me. Needless to say the men backed off and pretty much fled. They weren’t expecting a fight. It empowered me and encouraged the rest of the girls to yell back too.
I’ve heard that a lot of people don’t know what to do in this situation because they’ve been taught all their lives to be polite and non-aggressive. Keep your heads down or whatever.
Keep in mind that studies have shown that rapists look for victims who won’t fight back.
Remember that nobody has the right to touch you without your consent or harass you, and you have all the right to make the biggest fuss about it that you can possibly make.
Get angry. Be in command.
If someone is doing something that makes you uncomfortable like this, you do not need to be nice. Swear, kick, scream, make the asshole cry. You don’t have to nice, be as rude as you want
i am so frustrated with whedon and i just hate to be proven correct sometimes like uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuugh
i like tony, he’s a fun character, and i feel for him i really do i’m just reeeeeeeeeeeeeeally done with whedon’s hard-on for him.
like….especially after im3???? with the ending being about tony turning his life around and shit and not…making…things made for destruction and death??????? like that was literally the ending of im3????? about tony getting on track and figuring his shit out?????
but now i guess he’s making ultron????
like just it’s one thing for whedon to steal focus from the rest of the avengers, it’s another to fucking erase a whole character too. like.
idk i’ve just been really skeptical this whole time, but i’m managing to stay hopeful, but when i found out all the people that were sighted on set and confirmed to be in the movie i was like “…okay that’s a lot of people for one movie. is this thing going to be 3hrs long?”
but idk it’s starting to look like it’s going to be im4 with a backdrop of cooler, more interesting characters. they’re prolly all gonna yell at tony too. OH GOD WHAT IF THERE IS ANOTHER NAUSEATING BOUT OF ARGUING BETWEEN STEVE AND TONY UGH UGH NO GOD NO just ugh
i’m still hopeful though. i’m still holding on to that hope. like so far it’s looking bleak but…just maybe, MAYBE it’s not gonna be like that.
i’ll wait for the trailer to make a more sound opinion i guess just…
right now it’s just looking like whedon’s self-insert fanboy hard-on is coming back for round two and i’m just
THAT’S WHAT I DON’T WANT! I’M SO WORRIED THAT EVERYONE’S GONNA BE LIKE “GOOD FUCKING JOB, TONY! YOU FUCKING MORON!” AND I’M JUST GONNA BE LIKE WELL IT DIDN’T HAVE TO BE HIM?!?! SO NO!!
Had Ant-Man not been slated for release the SAME FUCKING YEAR only TWO MONTHS LATER, I don’t think I’d be AS mad about it but come the fuck on (and that movie’s been a WIP for YEARS now)…
I really want more Bruce, Clint, and Natasha. That’s what I want. And Rhodey and Sam and SURPRISE!Bucky. I don’t really give a good goddamn about the twins right now (British my ass) so yea…
For better and worse, RDJ is the face and focal figure of the Marvel films. He deserves that character arc. And as for Hank, sounds like he’s a straight up villain anyway.
Are you kidding me right now? Okay, let’s start with your comment on how RDJ is the focal figure of the MCU. He’s not supposed to be, at first it was him because he was the only one who had a successful franchise out, but now that the other Avengers are making their way onto the screen in their own movies that are box office hits, he’s no longer the face, he is a face. Though some directors (aka: Whedon) think differently because of blatant favoritism. No one deserves a character that is intended for another Character. It is not only ruining Marvel cannon, but also makes it harder to show the diverse and amazing characters Marvel has to offer if we only focus on one person. This is Not DC, we can rely on more then 2 superheros to make wonderful and amazing movies.
Second, because of that Hank Pym comment I’m going to take it you’ve only seen anything in the MCU and nothing of the Avengers comics, or cartoon series with him in it because Hank is not an evil villain. He is a scientist who discovered particles that could grow or shrink someone and has learned to control these particles, using them to protect people. He is a pacifist who believes in rehabilitating prisoners and is against any and all kinds of violence. When he created Ultron it was to help him in his rehabilitation work, escorting them between therapy sessions and if they had an episode, restraining them until help arrived.
I hope this cleared up why people are upset and also educated yourself on Dr. Pym. Please do your research before assuming about Marvel characters you’ve never heard about next time, it tends to make you look like an ass if you just assume.